幽默感：成为更受欢迎的人（李新重磅作品，贾玲推荐）
幽默感：成为更受欢迎的人（李新重磅作品，贾玲推荐）
1. “得到”App超受欢迎精品课《有效提升你的幽默感》主理人李新重磅作品，23万 用户热情购买
2. 梁宁（知名产品人）、王雪纯（中央电视台主持人）、黄西（脱口秀演员）倾情作序，罗振宇、王小川、贾玲、蔡钰、熊浩联袂推荐
3. 生活中挫折和希望轮番来敲你的门，悲剧和喜剧都会让人成长。在这个世界，我们需要幽默感，来积蓄勇气，保持乐观。
4. 幽默是待人处世的贴身技能，9个维度、15个技巧，拿来即用，快速、有效提升你的幽默感。
【签名版已售完~~】
你有没有这样的经历：
• 聚会时大家都兴高采烈、热情高涨，你却独自坐在旁边插不上话？
• 被要求发言，站起来的瞬间，感觉大脑一片空白。
• 来到一个新单位，你想要自我介绍，却在报完名字后就满脸通红，一句话也说不出来？
• 面对当面嘴贱、背后扎心的“烦人精”，总是没有回怼的机智。
幸运的是，幽默能帮你解决这些尴尬和难题。
幽默是一种能力，它让你总能看到生活的明亮面；它让你即使面对生活的恶意，也能有喜乐的视角。幽默的人爱笑，爱玩，爱逗乐，爱把微笑带给他人。
“得到”App幽默感课程主理人、中央电视台节目指导李新，通过9个维度为你拆解幽默的内涵，传授幽默的技巧。在本书中，李新更贴心地奉上15个拿来即用的幽默工具，让你轻松应对亲朋聚会、演讲表达、职场晋升、尴尬破冰、自我疏导、潜能激发等工作和生活中的大小困扰。
李新鲜榨喜剧创始人。喜剧编剧、导演、即兴喜剧演员培训师。美国南加州大学戏剧学院访问学者，师从《老友记》导演。
推荐序 2 幽默感是人格的一部分 / …… XV
推荐序 3 面对人生不完美好的办法 / 黄西 …… XIX
自 序 愿你总能看到生活的明亮面 …… XXI
Part 1重新认识幽默
人类到底为什么会发笑 …… 009
幽默的四个思维方式 …… 020
幽默是有段位的 …… 028
你真的与幽默无缘吗 …… 034
段子是幽默基础的表现形式 …… 043
段子的基本公式 …… 047
连接词和误导转向 …… 052
训练误导思维 …… 057
自嘲就是要讲自己的失败 …… 069
幽默感是人格的一部分
王雪纯
中央电视台主持人、制片人
为《幽默感》这样一本书写序，不是一件简单的事。究竟什么是幽默？自己有没有幽默感？心里想到幽默这个词的时候，脸上是该带着笑还是该皱着眉？琢磨着这些问题，眼前就出现了李新那张常常带着笑容的脸。
我和李新结识，是在制作即兴喜剧节目《谢天谢地，你来啦》的时候，说起来也是将近10 年前了。那时国内的观众对于即兴表演、即兴喜剧这种创作模式还不太熟悉，也没有什么制作团队尝试过这类电视节目，我们这一组率先试水的人自然也是摸着石头过河，一切都是新鲜的挑战，艰难但有趣。李新和她的团队就是在这“茸毛鸭仔初下河”的阶段加入我们的，她在国外学习时对即兴喜剧有一定的了解和研究，还引进了一套具体的训练方法，这些方法不仅针对创作和表演，也是一种社交能力训练，普适于很多场合、集体、团队。所以，李新加入我们之后的主要任务是在参加即兴表演的嘉宾上场之前，为他们做热身培训，目的是帮助他们熟悉即兴表演的规则，放松身心，解放个性和想象力，终能够怀着饱满的好奇心和兴奋感推开舞台上的门，走入即兴表演的场景中。由于录制时间的限定，每一次的热身都必须在一小时之内完成，就是在这些简短的热身培训中，李新为我们带来了新鲜的方法和她那始终热情诚恳的笑容。
时隔多年，我们的节目没有再继续做了，而李新却一直在坚持推广她的培训方法，指导喜剧表演，现在又奉献上了这本书。从目录上看，读者可能会觉得这像是一本教科书，于是也许会有人问，幽默是可以学会的吗？李新通过多年研究和实践的心得梳理出的这本书，给出了一个肯定的答案。
依据我的理解，幽默感原本就是人格的一部分，它包含了自主的幽默表达能力和对幽默的识别能力。虽然是人格的一部分，本应与生俱来，但幽默更像是潜伏在我们心灵深处的一种因子，它需要环境的滋养和个体成长过程中的自我建设来激活。而如何用一些有效的方法来激活幽默感，正是李新在这本书里所探讨的。当然，由于幽默附着于生命当中，它是灵动的，所以更多的时候需要我们去体会，也可以进行一些练习，却不可以生搬硬套。
幽默不是套路，但我们可以从某些规律中去感受它，在不知不觉中，那种海阔天空、峰回路转乃至绝处逢生的幽默感，或许就被激活了。
感谢李新热诚的探索和分享，愿大家在她对幽默感的分析体察中，感受到幽默带来的开朗心境。
两周前，我去参加一个设计师工作坊。一位德国设计师启动了一个为美德设计的项目。项目涉及8种美德，其中之一是幽默。我十分喜欢她对幽默的定义：“幽默，是一种能力，它让你总能看到生活的明亮面；它让你即使面对生活的恶意，也能有喜乐的视角。幽默的人爱笑、爱玩、爱逗乐、爱把微笑带给他人。”
英国作家萨克雷说：“诙谐幽默是人们在社交场上美丽的服饰。”小到家人、朋友、同事的聚会，大到公众演讲、商务谈判，一个幽默的人无论走到哪里都会自带受欢迎的气质，受到大家的认可，给人留下深刻的印象。就连美国总统的竞选团队，都会聘请专门的幽默顾问，好让总统候选人显得更加亲和，富有魅力。
你有没有这样的经历：
•聚会时大家都兴高采烈、热情高涨，你却独自坐在旁边插不上话，好不容易鼓足勇气跟大家互动一下，却让原本热闹的场面瞬间冷场，你也尴尬到无地自容？
•来到一个新单位，你想要自我介绍，却在报完名字后就满脸通红，一句话都说不出来？
•团队活动，你被要求发言，站起来的瞬间，你却感觉大脑一片空白，面对无数双望着你的眼睛，只想找个地缝钻进去。
•年终跟领导汇报工作，其他同事都侃侃而谈，你却像个闷葫芦，半天说不出个所以然来。本来工作做得不错，功劳却成了别人的，让你恨不得抽自己嘴巴。
•还有，你身边有没有一种“烦人精”，当面嘴贱，背后扎心，平时不干正事，爱跟你提一些非分的要求？等你反应过来，对方已经到了五里开外。你心中只剩悔恨，责怪自己怎么没有马上回怼的机智。
别急，幽默的技巧能帮你解决这些尴尬和难题，让你在各种场合更加游刃有余。亲朋聚会、演讲表达、职场晋升、尴尬破冰、人际关系、自我疏导、工作压力、潜能激发……你在生活中遇到的大小困扰，很多都能在这本书里找到解决方法。
幽默就像一种习惯，用得多了，机智聪明真的能进入你的基因。好消息是，这个技巧是可以学习的。在幽默这件事上，刻意练
习比天赋更重要。大部分的幽默并不来自灵感，而是来自幽默的思维方式和技巧。
在这本书中，我会分三步为你分解幽默的内涵，教你怎样通过幽默的技巧和刻意练习，成为一个更受欢迎的人。
首先，在第1章我会从理论的角度，对幽默进行重新定义和阐述。
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1. “得到”App超受欢迎精品课《有效提升你的幽默感》主理人李新重磅作品，23万 用户热情购买
2. 梁宁（知名产品人）、王雪纯（中央电视台主持人）、黄西（脱口秀演员）倾情作序，罗振宇、王小川、贾玲、蔡钰、熊浩联袂推荐
3. 生活中挫折和希望轮番来敲你的门，悲剧和喜剧都会让人成长。在这个世界，我们需要幽默感，来积蓄勇气，保持乐观。
4. 幽默是待人处世的贴身技能，9个维度、15个技巧，拿来即用，快速、有效提升你的幽默感。
【签名版已售完~~】
你有没有这样的经历：
• 聚会时大家都兴高采烈、热情高涨，你却独自坐在旁边插不上话？
• 被要求发言，站起来的瞬间，感觉大脑一片空白。
• 来到一个新单位，你想要自我介绍，却在报完名字后就满脸通红，一句话也说不出来？
• 面对当面嘴贱、背后扎心的“烦人精”，总是没有回怼的机智。
幸运的是，幽默能帮你解决这些尴尬和难题。
幽默是一种能力，它让你总能看到生活的明亮面；它让你即使面对生活的恶意，也能有喜乐的视角。幽默的人爱笑，爱玩，爱逗乐，爱把微笑带给他人。
“得到”App幽默感课程主理人、中央电视台节目指导李新，通过9个维度为你拆解幽默的内涵，传授幽默的技巧。在本书中，李新更贴心地奉上15个拿来即用的幽默工具，让你轻松应对亲朋聚会、演讲表达、职场晋升、尴尬破冰、自我疏导、潜能激发等工作和生活中的大小困扰。
李新鲜榨喜剧创始人。喜剧编剧、导演、即兴喜剧演员培训师。美国南加州大学戏剧学院访问学者，师从《老友记》导演。
推荐序 2 幽默感是人格的一部分 / …… XV
推荐序 3 面对人生不完美好的办法 / 黄西 …… XIX
自 序 愿你总能看到生活的明亮面 …… XXI
Part 1重新认识幽默
人类到底为什么会发笑 …… 009
幽默的四个思维方式 …… 020
幽默是有段位的 …… 028
你真的与幽默无缘吗 …… 034
段子是幽默基础的表现形式 …… 043
段子的基本公式 …… 047
连接词和误导转向 …… 052
训练误导思维 …… 057
自嘲就是要讲自己的失败 …… 069
幽默感是人格的一部分
王雪纯
中央电视台主持人、制片人
为《幽默感》这样一本书写序，不是一件简单的事。究竟什么是幽默？自己有没有幽默感？心里想到幽默这个词的时候，脸上是该带着笑还是该皱着眉？琢磨着这些问题，眼前就出现了李新那张常常带着笑容的脸。
我和李新结识，是在制作即兴喜剧节目《谢天谢地，你来啦》的时候，说起来也是将近10 年前了。那时国内的观众对于即兴表演、即兴喜剧这种创作模式还不太熟悉，也没有什么制作团队尝试过这类电视节目，我们这一组率先试水的人自然也是摸着石头过河，一切都是新鲜的挑战，艰难但有趣。李新和她的团队就是在这“茸毛鸭仔初下河”的阶段加入我们的，她在国外学习时对即兴喜剧有一定的了解和研究，还引进了一套具体的训练方法，这些方法不仅针对创作和表演，也是一种社交能力训练，普适于很多场合、集体、团队。所以，李新加入我们之后的主要任务是在参加即兴表演的嘉宾上场之前，为他们做热身培训，目的是帮助他们熟悉即兴表演的规则，放松身心，解放个性和想象力，终能够怀着饱满的好奇心和兴奋感推开舞台上的门，走入即兴表演的场景中。由于录制时间的限定，每一次的热身都必须在一小时之内完成，就是在这些简短的热身培训中，李新为我们带来了新鲜的方法和她那始终热情诚恳的笑容。
时隔多年，我们的节目没有再继续做了，而李新却一直在坚持推广她的培训方法，指导喜剧表演，现在又奉献上了这本书。从目录上看，读者可能会觉得这像是一本教科书，于是也许会有人问，幽默是可以学会的吗？李新通过多年研究和实践的心得梳理出的这本书，给出了一个肯定的答案。
依据我的理解，幽默感原本就是人格的一部分，它包含了自主的幽默表达能力和对幽默的识别能力。虽然是人格的一部分，本应与生俱来，但幽默更像是潜伏在我们心灵深处的一种因子，它需要环境的滋养和个体成长过程中的自我建设来激活。而如何用一些有效的方法来激活幽默感，正是李新在这本书里所探讨的。当然，由于幽默附着于生命当中，它是灵动的，所以更多的时候需要我们去体会，也可以进行一些练习，却不可以生搬硬套。
幽默不是套路，但我们可以从某些规律中去感受它，在不知不觉中，那种海阔天空、峰回路转乃至绝处逢生的幽默感，或许就被激活了。
感谢李新热诚的探索和分享，愿大家在她对幽默感的分析体察中，感受到幽默带来的开朗心境。
两周前，我去参加一个设计师工作坊。一位德国设计师启动了一个为美德设计的项目。项目涉及8种美德，其中之一是幽默。我十分喜欢她对幽默的定义：“幽默，是一种能力，它让你总能看到生活的明亮面；它让你即使面对生活的恶意，也能有喜乐的视角。幽默的人爱笑、爱玩、爱逗乐、爱把微笑带给他人。”
英国作家萨克雷说：“诙谐幽默是人们在社交场上美丽的服饰。”小到家人、朋友、同事的聚会，大到公众演讲、商务谈判，一个幽默的人无论走到哪里都会自带受欢迎的气质，受到大家的认可，给人留下深刻的印象。就连美国总统的竞选团队，都会聘请专门的幽默顾问，好让总统候选人显得更加亲和，富有魅力。
你有没有这样的经历：
•聚会时大家都兴高采烈、热情高涨，你却独自坐在旁边插不上话，好不容易鼓足勇气跟大家互动一下，却让原本热闹的场面瞬间冷场，你也尴尬到无地自容？
•来到一个新单位，你想要自我介绍，却在报完名字后就满脸通红，一句话都说不出来？
•团队活动，你被要求发言，站起来的瞬间，你却感觉大脑一片空白，面对无数双望着你的眼睛，只想找个地缝钻进去。
•年终跟领导汇报工作，其他同事都侃侃而谈，你却像个闷葫芦，半天说不出个所以然来。本来工作做得不错，功劳却成了别人的，让你恨不得抽自己嘴巴。
•还有，你身边有没有一种“烦人精”，当面嘴贱，背后扎心，平时不干正事，爱跟你提一些非分的要求？等你反应过来，对方已经到了五里开外。你心中只剩悔恨，责怪自己怎么没有马上回怼的机智。
别急，幽默的技巧能帮你解决这些尴尬和难题，让你在各种场合更加游刃有余。亲朋聚会、演讲表达、职场晋升、尴尬破冰、人际关系、自我疏导、工作压力、潜能激发……你在生活中遇到的大小困扰，很多都能在这本书里找到解决方法。
幽默就像一种习惯，用得多了，机智聪明真的能进入你的基因。好消息是，这个技巧是可以学习的。在幽默这件事上，刻意练
习比天赋更重要。大部分的幽默并不来自灵感，而是来自幽默的思维方式和技巧。
在这本书中，我会分三步为你分解幽默的内涵，教你怎样通过幽默的技巧和刻意练习，成为一个更受欢迎的人。
首先，在第1章我会从理论的角度，对幽默进行重新定义和阐述。
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